Monday, November 21, 2011

Is it time to learn a new dance in the marriage?

From Mona's Musings
Mona's Musings uses dance as a metaphor for a satisfying marriage in "Tripping the Light Fantastic: Flexibility and Intimacy". As Mona chronicles her own marriage through popular dance phases enjoyed with her husband, she shares, "Only recently, as I’ve been musing about what elevates marriage to the level of true intimacy (“the ‘very within’ place of the relationship… looking beneath the surfaces”, as author Thomas Moore puts it), have I realized how critical it is to be a GOOD DANCER."

Accompanying her conclusion that, "... the mindset required to learn a new dance is the same one required to achieve real emotional intimacy in marriage… vulnerability and forgiveness" are quotations from Thomas Moore's book, Soul Mates: Honoring the Mysteries of Love and Relationship, including:
"A major part of soul-work involves just getting out of the way so that life can go on. We may hang on fiercely to our own interpretations and programs, as if we knew best what we should do, but care of the soul is more a process of listening and following ..."